Finding a good life partner is critical to having a happy life. Most of us know little or nothing about how to go about it when we begin, and don’t realize that some otherwise attractive people would make awful partners for us. While most people manage to find someone to marry or stick with, many of those relationships are less than fulfilling. Disappointed and disillusioned, we either stick with someone who isn’t reliably on our side, or try again.
All of us grow up on fairy tales of love and marriage that are misleading at best, and at worst have you making mistake after mistake in starting relationships with the wrong kinds of people who will waste your time and keep you from finding a loyal partner. Psychologists have discovered that the way children are treated by their mothers in infancy sets their pattern of handling love relationships for a lifetime—and knowing our own and other’s love types can help us choose a partner wisely.
Reading this book will help you recognize the signs of people with love types that prevent them from being good partners for you.. We’ll go through the four basic love types and point out some of the signs. Those little red flags you sometimes notice when you are getting to know someone? Often they speak loud and clear once you understand the types, and you can decide immediately to run away or approach with caution those who show them.
I wrote about attachment theory and “love types” in my previous book, Bad Boyfriends: Using Attachment Theory to Avoid Mr. (or Ms.) Wrong and Make You a Better Partner. This book is the “Cliff’s Notes” version, and focuses on what you really need to know without the scientific background information. My previous book discusses the types in greater depth and adds a lot of useful background for understanding what they’re about.
