Children and Divorce: Helping Kids Cope with Separation and Divorce
Divorce can affect children in different ways. Kids who are usually cool headed can become rough and violent. Some may lose interest in school and their usual activities. How can we protect kids from the pain and heartache that comes with the fact that their parents are not together anymore? How do we help these children survive a divorce?
In my newest book “Children and Divorce: Helping Kids Cope with Separation and Divorce,” I give you tips on how to:
- Talk to your children about your divorce
- Listen to your child’s feelings
- Deal with their behaviors
- Co-parent with your ex
- Make your children still feel loved
- Not bring your children in the middle of your divorce
- And much,much more…
Ways to help kids cope with separation and divorce from the book:
For children, the hardest part of the divorce is to see their parents fighting. They want their parents to get along well with each other in spite of the divorce. It is especially important that both parents agree on matters that have anything to do with their children. Children might blame themselves for the divorce when they hear their parents fighting over something related to the kids. It will make them happy to see their parents communicate with each other amicably.
Parents should never have to make their children take sides. They love both parents so they should not act jealous or upset when the children spend and enjoy their time with the other. Each parent should support their children and keep themselves from thinking they love one parent more than the other.
The first thing your children will want to know is why you are getting divorced. When they ask, do not give them complicated and indirect answers which can be confusing. Whatever your reason is, make sure that you remind your children that even if you are getting divorced, you still love them and they are still your priority.
Let your children know that you love them. A simple “I love you” can give a positive impression on your children. This will calm their emotions and assure them you will still be there to take care of them and spend time with them as much as possible.
More information from the book
A child of divorce will show signs of distress through their behavior. Some infants will show agitation or nervousness. They will become fussy or listless and will cry a lot. Parents may also notice some delays in developmental accomplishments like crawling or sitting up. Professionals call this regression. Infants may also show serious changes in their sleeping patterns, personality, and appetite.
Children 3-5 years old or what we call preschoolers are usually on the stage of learning a lot of new skills. During this developmental stage, they can already talk and take care of themselves. They also start making their own friends and become independent. Their personalities will develop during this stage.
When their parents are going through divorce, preschoolers will most likely blame themselves for being the cause of the divorce. The most poignant emotion that preschoolers will feel when they experience divorce is fear of abandonment. Once a parent moves out of the house, they will fear not seeing them again. Since they are in the stage of magical thinking, they will try to wish the divorce is just a nightmare.
As you can see the ways to help your children cope with your divorce and separation from the book are straight to the point. This book is filled with condensed information on how to exactly help your children get through your divorce.
Buy the book now while it is being offered at a low introductory price; you will be so glad you did!
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